How to Tell if Your Ex Wants You Back

Love is such a complex thing, one day it can be all butterflies and rainbows and the next it can make you cry out loud. But true love can overcome anything, even a break up! Sure, people can grow apart for whatever reason but when the timing is right two people can reunite and experience love like no other. But it’s hard to predict that, especially if your ex-partner isn’t as talkative or prone to show emotion, so how will you know that your relationship is salvageable? Here’s how to tell if your ex wants you back!

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Common ground

If you and your partner broke up over miscommunication and not being on the same page, it can be hard to get back together, especially if one person was more responsible for the breakup than the other. This is where you need to take a break and see how you both can grow and evolve without each other, and then reunite and see if you are more compatible now. Experts from state that having a common ground is probably the most efficient sign you’ll reunite! This can mean a range of things, from the both of you agreeing to be strictly monogamous, or to have certain boundaries and rules you both feel are valid and needed in order to be happy! 

Opening Up

After any breakup, people tend to distance themselves from each other in every way possible, be it physically, emotionally or in any other way possible. But if they are not afraid to show emotion, talk about how they feel - especially regarding your breakup, this might be a sign they want you back. Try to understand their body language, but don't rely too much on it, just listen carefully how they talk and act around you. Someone who still has feelings for you wouldn’t be able to hold their feelings for themselves and will gladly state how they feel. Are they opening up to you? And is it in a longing and sorry way, to maybe win you back or are they just bitter about the breakup - know the difference!

Wanting To Be Friends With You

If they are actively finding ways to bump into you or to at least ask your mutual friends about you - this might be a sign! A relationship that ends on a good note with the two of you remaining friendly, is a great field to test the possibilities of getting back together. If they constantly call you or text you, asking about your day or generally wondering how you are doing, it’s probably because they still might have feelings for you! Make sure you are okay as friends first, and then decide if you should make a move and take your relationship to the next step!

Admitting they were wrong

There is no better way to tell that someone wants to get back together with you than admitting they were wrong in the first place. People are constantly too prideful to admit something like this, but if they truly miss you and love you, they’d do anything to be with you again. This means even telling you about the guilt they feel, regardless if they are the ones who broke up with you or not. This is a big step in the right direction, and certainly something to look forward to when considering getting back with your ex. An apology is such a huge thing and it probably took them  a lot of courage to tell you this!

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Testing The Waters

So if all of the above don’t apply for your ex, you can try a less subtle approach and be in command of the situation! Straight up ask them out, just to grab coffee or something, but it’s important to see them in person in order to truly see their reactions. Continue to do so, and act as though it’s nothing, but it will be telling on their part - just look how eager they are to see you, how they act when you are around them. If they show any sign of discomfort or even deny your request to see you, they are probably still figuring things out or totally done with you all together! 

At the end of the day you want to do what's best for both you and your ex, if you are both willing to give your relationship another shot, why not? Just make sure that both of you are on the same page, and that no one feels forced to do so, starting a relationship over can be hard and exciting at the same time, just take it seriously and see how it goes!

Susan Harris

By Susan Harris

Susan Harris is the owner of Rooted Mama Health. She is the mother to two amazing children and wife of a loving husband. She strives to provide the world with all the information they need to live a happy and health lifestyle.