While Valentine’s Day is meant to be a holiday of showing your love to others, for a lot of us, we cannot be expected to show love for others before we have taken some time for self-care. If you’re feeling tapped out you might not enjoy your celebration very much, so make self-care a priority. Here are some tips for how to make this happen during Valentine’s Day, and before we begin, I have to preface this by saying how none of these things will make you selfish. Taking care of yourself is for your own well-being as well as the well-being of those who love you, so make it happen!
Tell your person to GTFO Look, I know Valentine’s Day is about showing how much you love others, but in order to do that, you need some time to show love to yourself. Depending on your personality, that might include quite literally telling your loved one to please kindly go away for an hour so that you can take a bath, read, lay around doing nothing, spend some quality time alone, whatever it is that recharges your batteries. Don’t be afraid to ask for this space because you need it, you deserve it, and by golly, you’ll all be the better for it.
Buy chocolate for yourself and do not share it
This goes double if you are used to buying treats for others but never yourself. If you have kids, hide the chocolate. Pull the ‘ol chocolate in the frozen bag of peas trick if you need to. Just make sure that whatever treat you love, you get to indulge in.
Watch something that you want to watch alone (or with someone else, I’m not here to tell you what to do)
Sometimes I like watching old episodes of Sex and the City in the bath completely alone. It’s wonderful. Maybe you have a movie that’s your go-to feel-good pick, or a show that you’ve seen a billion times and always cheers you up. Gilmore Girls always does the trick for me. The important thing is that you get those feel-good hormones flowing through your body by consuming media that is familiar and pleasant.
Say no to something
If you’re like me and a recovering people-pleaser, this one might be tricky, but I encourage you to try it. If someone has asked you to take on a task or go out and do something that you’re just not up for, SAY NO. It feels amazing. No doesn’t have to mean no forever, just postpone it if you’re not up for it.
Dress in whatever makes you feel the best
My current I-feel-hot-in-this ensemble is as follows: Super high-waisted leggings that I got from stitch fix, this bra from Nasty Gal, black boycut MeUndies, and a slouchy tank top, extra points if it has oversized arm holes that show my tattoos. It’s a super comfortable, super casual outfit that on paper isn’t the most flattering thing I own but it hides the parts I don’t love about my body and accentuates the parts I do.
The best gift ever is extra zzzzs. I would take getting extra sleep over any gift, any day.
I hope this gave you some ideas of how to take care of yourself this Valentine’s Day!
Take Care of yourself,